Thursday, April 17, 2014

Because it’s gloomy, and I needed some sunshine

I went for a run with a new friend (a new friend! yay!) last Sunday and brought the whole family along so they could play at the playground. But what we didn’t expect to see was this magnificent field of bluebonnets. Apparently, it’s a Texas thing. Our little urban kids ran through them, rolled on them, tried to pluck them (but were warned against it as it’s against state law) and just feasted their eyes on them. What a lovely, lovely surprise.

After an unbearably long and painfully frigid winter in Chicago, this is a welcome change to our scenery. Even if we had to move 1300 miles away for it.

Today, the clouds are hiding the sun and my work is heavy. The house is empty, and it’s so quiet that I can hear my cats breathe. In the next room. I am in need of some sunshine and light. Perhaps even a little smile.

And voila!




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Mission accomplished.

Monday, April 14, 2014

The defining moment

You know that moment in a burgeoning relationship where you know that you’re in it for the long haul? The moment that takes you from good to wow? That tells you, yes, this is it, this is your future, and you can’t imagine being any place else? With My Guy, this was our defining moment: our electric first kiss. And for Austin, this moment happened to me this weekend.  

It all started with this sweet little neighbor lady who mentioned to the girls and me, after allowing us to pet her little pup, “Take them down 360, the bluebonnets are everywhere!” I made a mental note of it.

My Guy was due home from his long work trip to Chicago that day. He was driving 1300 miles in his car, and at that point in the morning, he had already reached Texas. Yes! Except, this being the largest state in the contiguous U.S. also meant he was still nowhere near. To distract ourselves, we walked to a nearby bakery for breakfast and procured some ribbons from another store to create a banner that Little Miss suggested, “to welcome daddy home!” and the girls dedicated the rest of the morning to making it.

When My Guy finally walked in at the end of the afternoon, this was the first thing he saw:


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And then there was a mess of tangled limbs and excitement and a constant flurry of daddy this and daddy that, which they had saved up from this past week. It was a good reunion. Especially when he delivered this to me, a perfect souvenir that we could only get from Chicago. In fact, it’s the only thing, other than our friends, that I had been missing and craving from our old city. Man, he knows me well.



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For dinner, I couldn’t think of a better welcome back to Austin than food trucks, and remembering the lady’s words, I recommended that we took 360 downtown. And I think that’s where it all began. This moment. 

Who knew that 360 was the scenic route? Certainly not us. Our jaws dropped at the picturesque view that took us along hill country and across the Colorado River. We saw expansive views of rolling hills, creeks, and hillsides that were dotted with the colors of wildflowers along both sides of our route, most notably the blue of the famed bluebonnets, but there were also fiery orange-red and yellow and even pink ones, much to the delight of our girls. We couldn’t believe it took us this long to discover this!

We lived right next to this highway, and we always turned left to jump on another highway to get downtown. Who knew that turning right would also get us there? It may be slower, but it’s certainly a hundred times better. This is, of course, no secret to the locals, but being new to the area, we became over-reliant on GPS to take us places. After all, shouldn’t it know better?

Apparently not. It gave us the shortest route from Point A to Point B, but that’s often not the scenic route. In fact, it rarely is.

I wish I had pictures to share but we were zipping past in our car, completely entranced by this new route, that it didn’t even occur to me. Besides, there are plenty of great pictures on the Internet, especially of the bridge we took across the river, like this one. And for the first time, we didn’t even look at our GPS. We knew this route would eventually take us downtown, and we didn’t care how long it would take or where we would end up once we were there. Today, it was all about the journey.

I also realized that funny things happen when you’re on a journey – you get to discover little gems that you never knew existed, or at least didn’t think to look for because you never knew it existed. That’s how we found this place that caught our attention as we drove past it, and we just had to turn back. Everything about it called out to us.


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Midway Food Park. It was a park with a playground and a live band on stage, surrounded by food trucks. In short, heaven.

Because dinner was no longer about trying to enjoy our food while trying to keep the girls entertained. There was plenty of entertainment, and we could savor our food that came from several different trucks – lobster roll, some meaty gourmet sandwich, patatas bravas and fried artichokes – uninterrupted by kids whining for attention. The girls would linger long enough to eat several bites and then its off to another quest.


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But it wasn’t just the food that found its way to my heart. It was everything about that place that said so much about this city. The lovely, temperate spring weather that brought this park to life, the live music that was characteristic of this live music capital of the country, the vibrant green space when most of the country is still trying to recover from the drab grey of winter, and the kind, friendly people. Like this dad who gave rides to random kids in the playground on a little red wagon, and of course Pickle, who’s never shy, climbed right up and made her place among unfamiliar faces, perfectly content to be dragged around by a strange man, which I suppose could be a good and bad thing. But she never left our sight, so today, it was a good thing. Then there was this 13-year-old who was so taken with Pickle and vice versa that they rarely left each other’s side. So smitten was Pickle that she brought me to the girl, who introduced herself as Suzanne, and said, “this is my new fwiend.”

Little Miss joined them for Hide n Seek, and My Guy and I just hung back at our picnic table and watched the lively scene around us – smiling parents with happy kids who harmoniously stretched out in a space that had something for each of them, the bright colors of birthday parties, flying bubbles and bobbing balloons adding texture to the landscape, a healthy line by the lobster roll truck, my feet tapping to the folk music from the stage. This was an evening made for us.

Then I remembered the scenery that accompanied us here and realized that we never reached downtown. We didn’t even know where this was, but we didn’t care. We had all the time in the world to get to where we wanted to go.

At that moment though, we were exactly where we needed to be.



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That night, after the girls were in bed, I was sitting on the couch when one of the banners we made fell, but instead of trying to fix it, I left it that way as it now makes even more sense. After a week of doubts, it’s almost like it knew I needed this.


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It’s most definitely a sign (hah!), because for the first time since we arrived here three weeks ago, it finally feels like home.

Friday, April 11, 2014

Dealing with disappointments

I had to do something really difficult today; I had to decline an offer that Little Miss received from the Selective Enrollment Schools in Chicago. Out of 28 seats, our little girl was selected, based on her test scores, to fill one of them in a highly competitive Classical school – our top choice for her – that’s ranked the second best elementary school in the state! After weeks of touring the schools in Chicago, and hours spent poring over which ones would best match her needs, talking to parents who navigated the complicated school system, and applying and hoping for the best, the congratulatory email arrived in my Inbox…the week we arrived in Austin. I didn’t even know how to react.

Thank you, universe, for this cruel, cruel joke.

I’m incredibly proud of my big girl, but this was just too much. After shaking my fist at the sky and doubting ourselves for relocating, I reminded myself that we chose Austin for its stellar public school system. Here, Little Miss doesn’t have to test into a good school or hope against hope that she will win a seat in the lottery for magnet schools. The only thing we need to do is to move into the neighborhood of our school of choice, and they’re at least more affordable than the neighborhood with decent schools in Chicago. Also, both girls can attend the same school here, rather than having Pickle go through the same process to see if she will be accepted into the same school as her sister, which I was informed was near miraculous.

I have since been pouring my energy into yet another time-consuming school research, and I think I finally honed in on one that would work really well for her. The next natural step is to find a house in that neighborhood. Easy enough.

Except it isn’t. It’s proving more difficult than we had imagined, because it’s a seller’s market here, and the really good houses go even before they hit the market. They have these “Coming Soon” signs before they put up “For Sale” ones so people who drive by get a chance to look at and bid on the house before it even gets recorded in the system. At a school tour today, I met a family who relocated from Atlanta, and they had to put an offer on a pre-MLS house sight unseen, and even then, they had to contend with three other offers! C.r.a.z.y.

So guess what we’ve been doing every other day? Yup, driving around the neighborhood we like, looking for signs. Literally. I even plan my running route there to do just that, but it’s not always fruitful.

Much to my excitement, something great did come along this week. Of course it was the day My Guy left for Chicago when this house came on the market, which meant I had to see it by myself (or rather, with the girls in tow at the time when they should be getting ready for bed, which made things reeeeeally interesting), take a video and pictures for him, and then we talked and talked and talked about putting an offer down. It will be his first home-buying experience – our first together -  and we wanted to be sure. But by the time we were, the sellers had already accepted another offer. GAAAAAH! All this within 24 hours of the house showing up as “new” on the MLS. Just when I was really starting to see us there. Just when I was really loving the idea of being in that house.

It was a huge disappointment to me. HUGE. I was so bummed that when the girls were in bed, I searched the house for some chocolates or whiskey for consolation. BUT THERE WERE NONE! The universe must hate me. Thankfully, a dear friend mentioned over email that she would sometimes just eat chocolate chips straight out of the bag, and I leaped out of my seat. Yes! I have that! And I proceeded to stuff my face with them to help me swallow the bitterness of my disappointment.

I wasn’t thoroughly out of my funk the next day either. I went for a run to “shake it off” but running in 80 degrees and climbing hills on top of that proved more torturous than helpful. How much more hostile could the universe be, I thought. What eventually did it for me was getting my girls from school and tossing our evening routine out the window when I found myself spontaneously announcing, “Who wants ice cream?”

What can’t ice cream cure? 


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The weather might have been awful for my run, but it was beautiful for dining, exploring, and ice-creaming. The glorious blue skies and breezy, sunny day encouraged us to linger outdoors with our (healthy!) Mediterranean dinner. After which, they bee-lined for the (not-so-healthy but oh-so-delicious) ice cream. The adjacent park shaded by gorgeous live oak trees beckoned us to stay awhile, and we did, allowing nature and ice cream do their thing with me.  With sugar-fueled kids near bedtime, they expended energy by further exploring the area, aptly named the Arboretum. Intrigued by paths that went into a lush greenbelt, we decided to follow it and found this little pond, tucked away in its own little world.




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The girls were thrilled with their discovery. There were a lot of squealing and “come here, look at this!” and “Whoa!” and just a general high that comes with happy kids doing happy kid things. With me in the middle, how could I not be pulled in by the brightness of their joy? It was exactly what I needed to extinguish the darkness that threatened me.

Granted, lest you think I have perfect children (hah!), they still managed to whine and protest  (“I don’t want dinner first, I want ice cream now!” and “I don’t want to go home and go to bed!”) and I did get frustrated at some point, but I suppose parenting two kids on my own in this still-strange city while My Guy’s away for work, that’s about as good as it was going to get. Actually, looking at the all-girls week we’ve had, I think we did pretty well together.

 

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I’m learning my way around (without the GPS!), our routine both grounds me and gives me space to work and to breathe, and the girls, well, they have been great and they have been a pain, which kind of cancels out each other, if you ask me. With My Guy 1,200 miles away for five days, I figured, to survive this, I need to be less ambitious, like giving fewer baths and feeding them dinner in front of the TV on a couple of occasions to avoid cleaning their mess at the dining table. (Hey, don’t judge.) And whaddya know? It worked.

When they’re with me, they’re my constant source of amusement, like when Pickle woke in the late evening to pee, then went back in her room and out of the blue announced in her sleep-tainted voice, “Mommy, when I grow up, I want to drink coffee,” before snuggling back in bed for the rest of her slumber. When they’re in school, I know they’re learning and growing and accepting and giving.

It is working out well for us here. Despite painfully declining the school offer. Despite the pang of a setback in our home search. Standing at the Arboretum lookout, in awe of the sight before me, and hearing the sheer delight in my girls’ voice, I had to trust that we made the right decision to come here. We will find a house that we love. The girls will flourish. Our family will be happy here. Even if it’s not readily apparent, I have to believe that whatever we do, whatever we end up with, it will be – it has to be – better than what we had before.



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Monday, April 7, 2014

It’s not all roses here (there are bluebonnets too)

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Our apartment is very beige. In fact, it’s the beigest (oh hey, look at that, it’s actually a word!) place I’ve ever been in. It’s like the interior designer thought, Hmm…what’s the most neutral and least offensive palate that would appease everyone? I know, beige! So let’s paint the wall beige, make the counters beige, the fireplace beige, the carpet, couch, bed linens, decor…you get the picture. It’s a lot of beige. With brown accents. Really?!

This apartment is also half the size of our previous place in Chicago. And because we chose a furnished apartment while our things went into storage in the house-hunting process, I am also realizing “furnished” means aesthetically, it looks like a (very beige) home, but utility wise, it’s not quite there. I mean, the only pan that comes with this place is eight inches wide, and when I bought some greens (“yu choy”) from the Chinese grocery store to stir fry for dinner, I had to cook it in three batches. That’s how useless an eight-inch pan is for a family of four.

With our kitchen things buried deep in the crevices of our storage, I rather imagine there won’t be any real baking or serious cooking in our near future.  But hey, we can make some killer omelets. One at a time. Yaaaaaaaaaaay…

And the roads here in Austin—or maybe Texas in general—what is up with the 14-lane highways, the six lanes (three to turn, three to go straight) on a frontage road, and the mega-high highways everywhere we go?

I’m not quite sure if it’s a complaint yet. I like that it cuts our travel time considerably, because now, nothing is more than 20 minutes from us, unlike Chitown, when seeing a dear friend across town meant at least a 45-minute commute in our car, and they’re not even in the suburbs.

But express travel also means we’re constantly going on and off a major highway here, which feels so impersonal to me. It’s as if the destination is more important than the journey itself, but guys, it’s really pretty here. The hills. The greenery. The winding streets. Why aren’t we taking our time through them?


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But perhaps that’s just the tourist in me talking. I suppose once I cross over to the more resident side of things, the cussing, honking city driver in me will probably appreciate the highways when I realize everyone on these side streets Are. Taking. Forever.

And this whole Lone Star State thing? Wow. I know Texas used to be its own nation once upon a time, but residents here seem to have that etched in their collective memory. And their bones. I’ve never seen so much state pride, evident in a gazillion variations of the Lone Star or the shape of the state in street signs, houses, yards, cars, buildings, tee-shirts, onesies, you name it. It’s almost funny to me, except I also admire it a little. When you find yourself in the middle of a culture that’s so confident, so sure of itself, it’s hard not to feel like you want to belong, which stirs up some odd emotions. Didn’t I, not too long ago, just think that I could never live in Texas? I mean, come on, could y’all really picture me in cowboy boots?

As I try to assess my feelings about this place, we’ve experienced our first hailstorm, which I was told was common in this region, we’ve had nearly 90-degree days in early spring (no, I’m not bragging, my frozen Chicago friends; it’s just not something I’m used to, and if it’s nearly 90 and toasty now, summer is absolutely going to fry us!), and we’re slooooooowly meeting new people but our network here is still somewhat non-existent.

Granted, it’s only been two weeks, but we’re people people. I may be an introvert who doesn’t socialize much, but I like the option of having a friend with whom I can go out for drinks if my week feels long. Without that, even the second largest state in the country feels a little claustrophobic.

So yeah, it’s not all peaches and roses (or the ubiquitous and lovely springtime favorite, bluebonnets, here) in Austin. We’re wading through culture shock, although shock is a strong word—culture surprises?—and  we’re coming to terms with the fact that this isn’t a vacation.

It’s different here, yes, but we’re doing just fine. It helps that we love exploring, we love being together, and we love that we are here.

The fact that our apartment is minimal in space and stuff is actually working well because we have a greater appreciation for what we do have. I am actually liking the minimalist living. The smaller square footage doesn’t bother the girls—they never really played in the lower level of our old two-level apartment anyway because they liked being around us, and now that we only have this one floor, they make do. We make do.

They play their pretend games on their own as long as I’m in their periphery, and without the access to their truckload of toys, they learn to enjoy the handful that we did bring here. They’ve also developed a passion for coloring, allowing me to organize, cook or even work on my computer, while they happily coexist with a “My Little Pony” or “Jake and the Neverland Pirates” coloring book each and a bag of crayons between them. 


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It’s a strange new world out here. In a good way.

As for the beige and brown, we brought our more brightly colored throws from storage to brighten the place; I added pretty pink and purple flowers to decorate, and unwilling to go another day with a drab brown comforter in our room, I splurged on a white and grey one, as well as a bright teal blanket to go with it. Ahhh… Color… Life!

The girls, on the other hand, need no brightening. They wake up cheery every morning, ready to take on the world. It’s amazing how well they’re adjusting, with barely a hint of homesickness, and when they do talk about our old friends and city, it’s only in fond recollection. They just started their new preschool three days a week at the Asian-American Cultural Center, and they’ve so far had eggrolls, yoga, and Kung Fu. Little Miss is also practicing her numbers—in Chinese. I joke that they’ll soon be more Asian than I am, but I fervently hope they keep at it. The school is certainly doing a better job than I am in teaching them about their own culture, and thankfully, they look forward to it everyday. 

 

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With the girls in school, I am back to my regular part-time work schedule at home, with the balcony as my office. My Guy’s work, a coworking space that he rents so he can connect with local entrepreneurs and free agents like him, is about five minutes from our house. More often than not, I get to see him in the middle of the day when he comes home for lunch. It’s a far cry from our situation in Chicago when he had to travel over an hour one way just to get to his client, and he had to do that three to five miserable times a week. Now, I would text him and let him know the girls are done with naptime, and he’d show up within minutes to hang out with us for the rest of the evening.

It’s pretty sweet.

Yes, there are a lot of changes around us, and they’re mostly good. Like when we walked into a car dealership one day and walked out with a new Subaru Forester. I blame the margaritas we had for dinner, but it’s a Motor Trend 2014 SUV of the Year, and we are car people who like our car peppy, so when this came with a turbo-charged engine, we couldn’t resist. The girls screamed gleefully at the sunroof as we pulled out of the dealership, and when we merged into traffic, I thought, holy shit, what the hell did we just do? As if we didn’t have enough change in our lives.


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But this car is so fun to drive, I simply had to let it go.

I’m hoping that finally arriving at a routine with the preschool and workspace would settle things down for us. Except My Guy will be in Chicago for five days this week while I manage things on my own with the girls. So much for being settled. In fact, I’m panicking a bit, looking for the nearest exit.

It’s going to be interesting for sure. But then again, things have been interesting the moment we decided to leave Chicago, so why stop now?

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

A new love affair

 

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It’s been a week in our new city, and though I want to say it’s love at first sight, this is more a tentative kind of love affair. It’s one that allows me to find sweet little notes in unexpected places, make deliberate eye contact for a hint of a smile in the midst of a bustling room, and go out of my way just to walk the same path home so our hands may perhaps brush against each other, sending tingles down our back. Sudden and exciting, unsure of what’s next, but yet feeling like it’s the most natural thing in the world. 

Or something like that.

The sun is shining, the air is a warm 80 degrees – I went from hot toddy to iced coffee season in a matter of days. In my view are what Austinites call a greenbelt – a large patch of natural greenery amid urban life – and the tulips My Guy came home with to put a smile on my face because I had a harrowing day trying to get a hold of someone from People’s Gas to turn off my service at my old apartment ($^@#&$*@&@%!!!). Yes, the flowers are in a blender because who packs a vase in their car when driving 1100 miles while waiting for the rest of the stuff to arrive on a bigass truck? 

At this moment, My Guy’s working at a coworking space he found just five minutes from our house and the girls are at rest in the middle of the day, which means someone should be napping but is probably playing with socks, pretending they’re party hats for her little fuzzy buddies, and the other is reading her fourth, fifth or sixth book from the library—I lost count. We made it a point to get Little Miss her first library card on our first day here because we couldn’t keep up with her fiendish appetite for books anymore. There are worse things I suppose.


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While the mid-day writing and resting feels the same, I myself feel like I stepped into a different world.

Well, okay, it is a different part of the world here. Back where we came from, it’s still puffy coat weather, but it’s not just the heat that we’re loving right now. There is so much more about this town that has our heart a-flutter. Like goodness gracious these beautiful, undulating hills in my neighborhood that took my breath away when we first turned into this thoroughfare that leads us to our place. This is quite the change in scenery (and elevation) from the flat landscape of our previous home state.

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But you know what’s the best part? Austin is closer to the western edge of the Central Time zone, which means the sun comes up later here than it does in Chicago. Which also means my girls don’t wake from bed till almost eight o’clock EVERY MORNING!!!!!!!

Sorry, did I seem a little excited there? That’s because I am. I realize now that their internal clock is tied to the sun; when the sun rises, so do they, and now that dawn happens almost a full hour later, we get to freakin’ sleep in! Which, in our world, means 7:30AM—still early for some, but hey, I’ll take it!


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When we finally got into town last Sunday, we rolled into a dark and tired city. As weary travelers, we were okay with that. Two days on the road can do that to you. We were ecstatic to be here, except we weren’t quite sure what here meant yet.

But when we woke the next day, we were eager to get our Austin on. That’s how we ended up with the quintessential Austin breakfast tacos at the Torchy’s near us.


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And we weren’t disappointed. We’ve also had Cajun pizza (shrimp and pineapple anyone?), delectable homemade dumplings in an unassuming Chinese joint a few minutes from our house and the Austin-famous Amy’s ice cream—twice. But we already knew Austin is a food town; it’s no surprise that we’ve been impressed with our choices so far. Eating our way through a culinary hotspot seems like the best way to get to know it, though not the healthiest way, I admit.


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Eating our way through Austin is definitely why I’m back on my usual running schedule again. I don’t have to dodge subzero temps but subtropical is not my friend either apparently. Especially when you jump from one to another so quickly. Throw in these hills from my neighborhood called Great Hills – errr…yeah, there’s a reason why they’re so named – I’m thisclosetodying each time I run around these parts. Two things I never really grew accustomed to back in Illinois: heat and hills. And these are the two main elements I contend with each time I step outside here. Ugh. I should just take up swimming instead. Seriously. 



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But I’m not complaining. We had the most amazing weather this past weekend – sunny and 70’s – that kept us outdoors. We went back to Zilker Park downtown after our Day One foray there so I could run on the trail around Lady Bird Lake, which turned out to be a runner’s haven (yay, no hills!). While the rest of the family explored the playground, kids’ train, lake and Barton Springs “Splash” exhibit, I felt my bones finally thaw from the depths of this past Chicago winter as the gentle spring weather took us in its warm embrace. 


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After my run, we headed to the farmer’s market downtown for (surprise, surprise) more food exploration. At Little Miss’ request, we went in search of a food truck and ended up with an antelope chorizo taco as our first food truck experience. Another success.  



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With our bellies full, we stayed in the park by the market so the girls could play with other kids. We didn’t see any reason to hurry back. With the sun on our face, no one wanted to go home or stay inside. It’s just that kind of weekend. The kind that says, hey, welcome to our fair city – won’t you stay awhile? 

And so far, I haven’t found a reason to say no.

 

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