Wednesday, September 22, 2010

What I am is what I am

On Monday, after reading my post published that morning, My Guy wrote me an email that simply said: “I feel special…I got two posts in a row!”

Well, I’ll be damned. He totally did. It was an oversight on my part. Lest he thinks he’s all that, I need to take back my blog and make it all about me again.

It so happens that two of the bloggers on my must-read list, Cecilia from Only You and Devon from You Had Me at Neurotic, tagged me on this Q&A meme awhile back, and I think this is the perfect time to dive into it.

What experience has most shaped you, and why?
It’s probably no surprise that it’s a toss-up between my move across the world from Malaysia to the States and motherhood. My move is significant because I think it helped empower my decisions to live life as I could, rather than to live as I should. As for motherhood, having to be responsible for the life of another means I have to model the behavior I expect of my child and man, let me tell you. It’s NOT easy. I’m still working on the profanity.

If you had a whole day with no commitments, what would you do?
I would like to say that I’ll read for hours and hours, explore a gallery or indulge in a spa day, but I’ll most likely end up wasting too much time on the internet or TV, which I rarely watch these days, and then get upset with myself for squandering away a perfectly good day to do all those things I should’ve done.

What food or drink could you never give up?
Coffee (just cream, no sugar).

If you could travel anywhere, where would that be and why?
France, because I fell in love with its food, architecture, language and culture the first time I was there and have been dying to go back since.

Who do you have a crush on?
A no-brainer: My Guy. Ever since he became a dad, seeing him with my daughter has made me more in love with him than ever. Joseph Gordon-Levitt is a close second though.

If you were leader of your country, what would you do?
Wonder why anyone would elect me in the first place. I can barely get my toddler to listen to me, let alone a nation of people.

Give me one easy savory recipe that doesn’t include cheese.
This is our go-to sandwich on busy weeknights that I created when all I had were these ingredients:  Sliced tomatoes and avocados on whole wheat bread spread with mayo on one side and spicy mango chutney on another.  Veggie, protein and carbs in one. Quick and nutritious – take that Rachael Ray!

What did you think you were going to be when you grew up?
Because of my vast paper doll collection, I thought I was going to be a fashion designer. And then from out of nowhere, it was replaced by Astronaut. Until I took my first physics class.

If you could spend just one day in someone else’s body, who would it be?
My father. I want to know how he is able to sleep at night.

Which woman writer – living or dead – do you most admire and why?
Toni Morrison. She was raising two boys on her own when she published her first novel and went on to become the first African-American woman to receive a Nobel Prize in Literature. One of her books, Song of Solomon, is still one of my favorites. 

What character trait inspires you the most?
Passion. Not the sonnet-writing, flower-sending kind, although that’s lovely as well, but one that drives someone to succeed at what they do, whether it’s career, charity or family. I see that in My Guy, and it’s exhilarating.

What is your favorite kind of music?
The kind that resonates with my emotions at the time, so really, nothing in particular.  I will always have Imogen Heap, The Nationals, NIN, Radiohead, Tegan & Sara, The Shins, Hot Chip, Phoenix, Tokyo Police Club and the soundtrack from Garden State on my Zune. Yes, Zune, says the non iFan.

Which book or books have inspired or touched you the most?
This is a long list but the three that comes to mind now (and this answer may change next week):

1. Written on the Body by Jeannette Winterson, for her enigmatic prose on the love affair between two people, although you’re never entirely certain of the narrator’s gender.

2. Devotion by Dani Shapiro, a memoir whose author has a strikingly similar dissonance with her spirituality as my own; it has inspired me to probe my own spiritual void and to begin my own journey in search of understanding.

3. Our Sister Killjoy, by Ama Ata Aidoo, the first book I read in my post-colonial literature class that led me to my passion for women’s literature; I was drawn to the power of her voice, which influenced me to discover mine.

Do you have a good luck charm, something you carry with you or a mantra you say or necklace or outfit you wear when you need that little something extra?
I don’t really have anything for luck, but my go-to mantra when something goes wrong is “This too shall pass”. Simple but effective. Sometimes it’s the only thing that gets me through those days that start on the wrong side of the bed.

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Because I’m so late in the game, I think every blogger that I know may have already been tagged with this meme at some point, so if you’re reading this and have not been tagged, consider yourself it. I know, what a cop out. Forgive me. After answering all these questions, my brain is mush. And I’m way past my bedtime.